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Family mediation is a way for people who are divorcing or separating to make their own decisions for the future, with the help of an experienced and impartial Mediator. It is a non legal way or resolving disputes. The Mediator facilitates discussion between you enabling you to reach suitable and mutually acceptable agreements.

You can talk about arrangements for children, property and financial matters.

The aim of mediation is to make a written agreement describing the arrangements you have decided on.

Please do not be put off by the legal terminology used in the process, it will all be explained to you.

Mediation is not counselling, nor an attempt to bring about reconciliation.

Mediation gives you control, if you decide to go through the courts it is the Judge making the decision and it may be something none of you wanted.

The National Audit Office recommended the use of a Mediator, reporting that "family disputes...resolved through mediation are cheaper, quicker and, according to academic research, less acrimonious than those that are settled through court".


Mediation is about making positive agreements so that you can move on with your life.

"Our mediator did a tremendous job and acted impartially. You all do a great job"

"My husband and I were at total gridlock. We were able to use the experience of mediation to come to an agreement - wonderful"

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