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Steps in Mediation

Step 1 - Thinking About Mediation

  • If you are divorcing or separating or thinking about it, our administrators will be happy to talk to you about mediation.
  • If you want to know more, the administrator will take your details and book an assessment meeting with the mediator for you.
  • Family Mediation can help you sort out practical family arrangements in a series of joint meetings.

Step 2 - The Information Meeting

  • The Mediator will explain what mediation means and help you decide if it is right for you.
  • At the Information and Assessment Meeting we can see if you are eligible for public funding. You must bring in proof of income or we won't be able to assess you and you will need to pay.
  • You can choose to have a joint Information Meeting with your ex-partner or to have a separate one. If you both choose to have a joint one, we will still see you separately for a part of the meeting.

Step 3 - Starting Mediation

  • If you both decide, with the Mediator, that mediation would be right for you, the next session will be a mediation session.
  • This session is held as a joint session. If you have had separate Information Meetings an appointment will be made at a mutually convenient time.
  • If you are mediating over financial issues you must be prepared to disclose all the relevant information. The Mediator will explain what you have to do at the first mediation information meeting.

Step 4 - During Mediation

  • You would normally bring in any paperwork that is requested at the first session. During this session the Mediator will go through all the paperwork with you and make sure you both understand your financial situation before looking at the options available to you.
  • If you are mediating over child issues the Mediator will help you make plans for contact arrangements. You can decide what you want to discuss and how much detail would be helpful. The Mediator will also try to help you to communicate with your ex-partner about the children so that that you feel more confident about this once mediation has finished.

Step 5 - Reaching Agreement

  • Once you have both reached agreement, for child issues the Mediator will write up the details in a Statement of Outcome, or for property & finance or both child issues & property & finance, a Memorandum of Understanding (agreement) and Open Financial Statement will be written for you. Dont worry the Mediator will explain all of this with you.
  • You can then choose to have your agreement turned into a consent order by your solicitor.

Mediation is about making positive agreements so that you can move on with your life.

"Our mediator did a tremendous job and acted impartially. You all do a great job"

"My husband and I were at total gridlock. We were able to use the experience of mediation to come to an agreement - wonderful"

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